I was blessed with a pretty awesome husband. Although he does have one thing that drives me (and him) crazy…Allergies! This awesomeness has been passed down to my two kiddos as well. And with that being said this is why I chose the title “Allergies will be the death of me.”
It’s not too bad with my 6 month old, but with my 3 year old it’s a nightmare! When his allergies start getting out of control he also starts getting out of control. First the nose starts running which means the back talking starts. Then the gunk in the throat starts building which means my anger and agitatingness (I know that not a real word but whatever) also starts to build. Then comes the explosion! He’s crying and I’m crying and my little girl is crying because I guess she thinks that’s what she suppose to do. There are a lot of tears.
And it is like this every single time! It has not gotten better as far as allergies go. I know that you don’t feel well when all that is going on, but come on. He can be down right difficult. I try disciplining him with time outs and taking toys away and sometimes spankings. (yes we do spank occasionally in our house) Nothing works!
Today for instance, we are coming home from my mother-in-laws and he decides he wanted to get a drink from there before we left. Well I didn’t know he wanted one, he never said anything. But he expects me to turn the car around and go back so he can get one. I calmly tell him we have drinks at home and that next time we are there he can bring one home, but that’s not the answer he is looking for.
He proceeds to whine the entire way home and eventually falls asleep. Awesome! Until I try to carry him in. He starts crying and yelling that he wants to sleep in the truck and I’m telling him No it is to cold. And I have to carry him kicking and screaming into the house. It was awful!
He doesn’t give up and I eventually have to put him in our bedroom and tell him to stay there until he can calm down. (I needed to take a breather too) He was probably in there for an hour screaming and talking to himself. It was kind of funny because he was saying that I was going to be on the naughty list and not get any presents at Christmas. And the whole time I was waiting for him to calm down I kept telling myself, “Jesus help me to handle this in the right way, and that it will not always be like this.” We haven’t had a melt down like this in a long time. He is always grumpy and in trouble when his allergies are bad, but this time was REALLY bad!
I think parenting is a trial and error thing. When these thing were happening in the past I would try spanking first. Then I tried the corner and then time out in a room. Its hard! None of these ever really worked well and a lot of the time it would end with me yelling at him and both of us crying. I have a very hard headed kid and sometimes certain things would work one day and not work the next. One thing I have learned is that if I can keep my calm it definitely helps. And this is not always easy to do. But I refuse to have his think it’s ok to act this way and to treat me this way.
After it all blew over I went and told him that I thought he needed to say he was sorry. (which he did) Then I told him we could start over and gave him a huge and a kiss. I personally think that when it gets that bad that’s the only way to handle it. Don’t bring it up again and start all the negative energy over again. They need to know that it’s not ok to act that way and treat people that way. By taking the time to explain this to them it will help them to grow. I believe him when he said he was sorry and I know that he knew he acted inappropriately.
Another trying day and another Mommy Moment. How do you handle when your child is having a total meltdown? Let me know!