You’re probably wondering what type of title this is. Momenemy=Mom/Enemy meaning, two mothers who interact sometimes as the best of friends, and in other instances the worst of enemies. (ya know like a friendenemy) Now we’re on this same page! I think every Mommy has one of these and it can make for stressful play-dates, birthday parties, etc.
I have one of these and it can be a very hurtful and trying thing to deal with. I know I fell like I have to suck it up because our children are the same age, will go to the same school and like the same things. So more than likely (unless they move away) we are always going to be around each other. And sometimes in these situations I feel as though one of the Mother’s is more I guess “fake” than the other.
By this I mean that they will talk about other Moms and judge their parenting (which I was also guilty of after my first child but have since learned that everyone does things different) and will smile and be cheerful to their face and as soon as they are out of sight say something negative about them! I don’t understand it! I guess I have just always thought that if you didn’t care for someone then you don’t be rude to them but you also don’t be fake either! I think being fake is almost worse than being rude. (that’s just my opinion)
But like I said I have one of these lovely people in my life and I feel as though I try to reach out and invite them to do things or just try to get to know them better as well as them getting to know me better all to end with having my feeling hurt and feeling upset. And when this happens I try REALLY hard to do what the Lord wants me to do. Now I’m sure some of you reading this are thinking,”oh great a bible thumper,” or something else negative. Let that be your cue go ahead and leave. Like I said in my “About” section I am a Christian and if that’s not your thing then either is this Blog! Moving on, I try to do what the Lord wants me to do which is to seek approval from Him not from her. Think about that for a second, do we get our feeling hurt and get upset because we really are just wanting approval from them? Ding Ding! Of course that’s what it all boils down too.
It took me a long time (really long) to figure this out. Probably because I was searching for all the answers in the wrong places. Finally I turned to my Bible and Google. By Google I mean literally searching the internet to see what the Bible said about certain things I was dealing with. By doing this it opened my eyes to so many things and to look at situations in a different perspective. The main thing being to STOP seeking approval from others (that includes family) and just seek approval from God. Galations 1:10 says, Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
I really never realized that I was doing this. I was trying to please other people, trying to win approval. Therefore I was not being a servant of Christ. But from praying and having faith that God would direct me to the answers I needed I found Peace. Now don’t get me wrong I still have moments were I’m bitter and angry with the way people are treating me or how I feel they should be treating me. When that happens I have to remember, Seek approval from Him. Not from others.
It sure is hard being a Mommy sometimes, but I’m very glad that I have a God that will listen to me and show me the way. And even though I may stumble (which is almost everyday) he is there to pick me up and help me keep going. Romans 12:19-21 is another good thing to remember. I definitely read this one often when dealing with this Momenemy. I’ll let you look it up to see what it says.